It’s been a long time since I review a book before. But this anthology, I really want to review and recommend it. And yeah, several people asked me to do a review about it.. so.. here we goes.
I did review this book on my instagram, but that’s just a brief review. It does not give this book a justice.
This is an anthology, collection of essays/stories from various writers regarding this piece of cloth we called “tudung”. I bought this book at Popular Bookstore, the price is RM20, if you have the member card, you will get a 20% discount, that you only need to pay RM18.
I was interested to buy it because before this I had saw an advertisement by Matahari Books to invite writers who had a story to tell or share about “tudung” can send it to them, if selected will be featured on this anthology. I was about to write mine, but then I’m insecure about my english lol. So anyway, when I saw this on a bookstore, I had to buy it!!
Warned: This is not a religious book.
I loved almost every story written here. I somehow can relate to the story told, either because I had experienced it or I saw it happened in front of my eyes. Or some incidents that my friends told me. I want to highlight some of the story here by several writers.
A story shared by an anonymous made me feel sad, because I also had a friend who didn’t wear the hijab and still perform her prayers. It’s during my foundation years, where my friends and I usually performed our zuhur prayer at a university’s mosque. One day when we entered, a man passed by, and he scold one of my friends because she didn’t cover her hair to enter into a mosque. And I was WTH?? I made a fuss about it after the incident, but my friend who got scold didn’t even bother about it. And I never admired her more since. A muslim has a right to perform prayer at a mosque, who are you to judge just because the person sin differently than yours?
Unveiled by Raja Ummi Nadrah is an example of our society who like to judge and harrass people just because we behaved/dressed differently. I met a lot of men and women who have this kind of mentality. Pity.
The Hijabilantes by Masawi Mustaza captured a beautiful metaphore about organisation who helped a lot of women in distress, either being abused by their husbands etc. It reminded me of the good deeds from the NGO Sister in Islam (SIS) in helping women in Malaysia. Whatever dispproval you have with SIS, one couldn’t denied their contributions in helping women in Malaysia and also the empowerment of women.
I would like to end my review with the quotes from this anthology itself.
“In Islam, this life is a journey. Every day, we try to improve to become a better Muslim” - Much Ado About Tudung, Hezreen
“The tudung remains a symbol of love and devotion to God... The tudung only covers out hair, it shouldn’t ever cover our mind.” - Around The World in 80 Tudungs, Khadijah Khalid.
I lost my phone, an iPhone 5s that my father gave me two years ago when he bought a new phone, in a toilet bowl. That cannot be traced at all. It fall deep. Yeah I shed a tear or two. Unreachable for a couple of days and one of my co-workers lending me her old samsung. The phone was just can be used for text and call only. No internet. For a couple of weeks I used the phone, until my friends tried to reach me. Lol and my dear friend, Abir lending me her old phone as I cannot be reached via whatsapp.
They came at my workplace haha. Thank you so much girls 💖💖
Alhamdulillah, I had just graduated on 29th October 2017. It marks a new beginning to the chapter of my life. Having a law degree, but still hesitate whether to practice as a lawyer or not. That's another story that I think will have another moment to share about.
Five years in law school, that comprises one year of foundation in law in UiTM Shah Alam and four years degree in UKM, teached me a lot of things. A bittersweet memories that i will clung into for the rest of my life, hopefully.
It is not a smooth journey for me. I can't remember why i chose law at the first place after SPM. Maybe because the fact that I was fascinated during our school visit to the Faculty of Law and Shariah in USIM back then.
I love the foundation years in UiTM. Met a lot of lovely companions that teach me a lot of things about life. It made me realized that indeed I love to read law and decided to pursue my degree in it too. My aim was definitely either UM or UKM. But I strongly wants to pursue my study at UKM.
Unfortunately, during my second semester I failed on one subject; Introduction to Economy. It made my final results wouldn't be sent to the UPU system. However I still get the interview from UKM. My lecturer said that the interview was based on my first semester result, that's why my name was listed to the interview. But still, because my second semester result was being held, I would not get into any university that I applied on the UPU.
I need to take up the preliminary exam to repeat my failed paper, but the highest grade they will give me was just a pass; C. If I want to get an A's, I need to extend a semester, which of course I did not chose the latter. And I can enter into uni in September, just the same as other friends but I can only pursue my study in UiTM.
I managed to pass the paper, it still made my core subjects cgpa to 3.67. As my lecturer warned earlier, when the UPU results came out, I didn't get an offer. Refused to listen to her, I appealed (rayuan) on the UPU, and guess what? I got an offer to pursue Law from UnisZa for second intake. It surprised me because my lecturer said even though I appealed through UPU, I still wouldn't get an offer from any uni.
On the side notes, at that time I applied for JPA and also send several letters to the Dean's Faculty of Law in UKM, UUM and also UniSZA for second intake. UniSZA told me that the offer was from the UPU, not because the letter that I send them.
During my last day of orientation at UniSZA, I felt a little forlorn, because at that time UniSZA's Law degree was not recognized by the LPQB, so I cannot practice to be a lawyer.
At the last day of orientation, I got a call. Guess what? It's from Faculty of Law UKM!! I was so excited that I had been accepted for their second intake, just from the effort that I wrote an appeal formal letter to the dean, alhamdulillah.
And praise to Him too, that I also got a scholarship from JPA. I mean, I didn't even got a 4 flat for foundation, but alhamdulillah the rezeki was on me.
But yeah life was not all flowers and rainbows lol. As soon as I went to UKM, I'm quiet lost. It was so different from the foundation years. The lecturers were strict and not really approachable. And my friends from my foundation had already formed a group, that I'm not included in it because I was the second intake student; the timetable for the elective subjects and also tutorials were different. So we estranged.
And yeah some of them even talked to my face that I managed to get into UKM because of a cable. They didn't trust the real story I told them then be it. Lol cable? My parents were a nobody, we didn't have connections here or anywhere.
At that time, I felt such a loss. I'm not interested to pursue law anymore. In fact, the things that we learned during foundation was like only 1/10 of the degree phase.
And then I met my other foundation friend, but she's a Political Science 's student. We have this conversation about her course, and I even went to her replacement class one day at night, and I became interested. I decided to change my course into Political Science.
But yeah, unfortunately when the time came up to tell my father about my decision, (during my brother's wedding), my father proudly presented me to his friends as "future lawyer". I never thought that he was proud of me of the field that I chose to pursue. Because my father supports everything that I chose moderately.
So I decided to just bear with it, and hey during my second year of law school was not quite bad. It regained back my interest to read law.
And yeah here I am now, alhamdulillah graduated with Bachelor of Laws with Honours. It's not a smooth journey, but hey it's worth it. Fight for what you want to do. Alas you will regret it.
Recently I worked at this retail company (still is), under their CSR program for a certain period of months according to the contract. The employees while working were talking about this another employee, happened to be in her late 60s. One of them asked why was this 'Makcik' still working here, isn't there a limit of age in this company? Were her children did not take care of her?
Someone answered, that the Makcik while in tears begged to work here although according to the policy of the company, the limit of age is 61 years old. They pitied her, so they allowed an exception for her. So we're like, "Oh, really? Why her children did not take care of her, she's an old woman now, should just sit at home in the care of her children."
And suddenly I heard someone said this:
"As much I pitied her, I didn't blame her children for abandoning her. You know why? Because she didn't pray."
I was dumbfounded. At first I was like... what??? What is the correlation between you did not pray and your children neglect their own responsibilities towards the parents?
I'm a new employee, so I didn't know much about the characters of other employees here. As much as I disagree with that fallacy statement, I did not want to open up an argument. But then although after she said that everyone were still continued with our works, she still kept going saying,
"I did advice her to pray, but then she said 'Even if I pray, nothing will change'"
I don't like this kind of conversation. So I interrupted before she spilled out even more, I said "The fact that she didn't pray is between her and God. The fact that her child did not take care of her well-being is another matter altogether."
Then she replied, "Yes, it's true but it still affect because she didn't make a du'a for her children." And then another people agreed with her and I just kept my mouth shut. Thank God the topic ends there.
The fact that the children are irresponsible towards their parents have nothing to do with the fact that the parents believe in God or do not believe in God. Whether they pray or they do not pray. It's the matter of behavior, the selfishness or maybe anything that happened that we do not know nothing about. Maybe because they were economically struggling so it forced her to still working, or maybe because she just wants to work.
Faith is not something that can be forced to, everyone's exposure is different. Who are we to judge other people when we don't even wearing their shoes?